December 20th is the start of the winter solstice, where we begin to move from darkness to light. It is also coincidentally my wedding anniversary. During this time, I have been reflecting upon my own marriage with my husband and the ways in which our relationship has grown. I have also been thinking about how much of this growth has been made possible by my feeling whole within myself.
No matter how much two people love each other, there will always be imbalance if both people have not found love for themselves. And this imbalance without self-love applies to single people as well.
At its core, a wedding is a celebration where vows are exchanged. These promises, which come from a deep understanding of and love for each other, are the foundation upon which hopefully a long, beautiful marriage is built. But what about making vows to ourselves? How often do we take the time to make and, more importantly, keep promises to ourselves? Finding self-love and accepting ourselves are tremendous challenges for many of us. It takes time to get to a place where we love all facets of our beings, even those challenging parts of us, that have helped us get to where we are today.
To allow ourselves to better cope with our hectic environments and thrive in our complex relationships, we must take the time to step back and fall in love with ourselves, so that we can live our lives with greater ease.
For this week, I challenge you to write vows to yourself. Here are mine. I invite you to share yours below in the comments section!
I will honor that little voice of intuition in my head.
I promise to work everyday on accepting my true authentic self of “me”
There is a way to work through the block and I will work hard to enjoy the learning bumps along the way
I am so grateful for my body as a vessel carrying my spirit.
Thank you self for showing up each day.
My path ahead is illuminated.
Go on and bathe in the bliss of self-love!
“You do not marry the person that you are in-love with. You learn to love the person that you are given” – Claudia Van Buren